Celibacy, Soul Ties, and the Single Woman

Celibacy, Soul Ties, and the Single Woman


After God prepared my heart to be celibate, I had to make a choice to live celibate. God gives us free will to do as we please; He will not force anything or Himself on us. With this being said, I had to make a conscious choice to live a celibate and pure life for Christ. After I decided I would take God at His word and vowed to be celibate until marriage, God started to reveal things to me about purity, soul ties, and being a single woman.
Firstly, if you want to be used by God, at your fullest potential, you must be willing to present your bodies to Him as a living sacrifice. The word tells us: “And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice–the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him.” (Romans 12:1) God’s desire is to use a pure and willing vessel.
There’s a story in the bible about a wealthy home filled with both wooden and gold utensils. The scripture says that the gold utensils are reserved for special use and the wooden and clay utensils for everyday use. I believe that God has put great purpose and potential in all of us. He has given us skills, talents, and abilities to do supernatural things.

2 Timothy 2:20-21Living Bible (TLB):

“In a wealthy home there are dishes made of gold and silver as well as some made from wood and clay. The expensive dishes are used for guests, and the cheap ones are used in the kitchen or to put garbage in. If you stay away from sin you will be like one of these dishes made of purest gold—the very best in the house—so that Christ himself can use you for his highest purposes.”
There are doors that God wants to open for you and opportunities that He wants to give you but He desires your obedience. Obedience to His will means living a life free from anything that will contaminate your purpose. Purity doesn’t mean perfect. Purity is a decision to be set apart for God’s holy use. If we want supernatural things from God and doors to be opened, we have to be willing to sacrifice our flesh to receive them. You have to decide whether you want to be like the wood and clay utensils, and used commonly or like the gold utensils and used supernaturally.
Are you willing to let pre-marital sex hinder you from the abundant blessings of God? Obedience in purity proves to God that you are ready for great works. God wants to be able to trust you with what He has for you. Purity is not just about a sex choice; it’s a life choice. If you can be faithful over your body God can trust you to be faithful with the blessings He has for you.

Soul Ties

There are many things that hinder you from the blessings of God and soul ties are often overlooked and hardly ever acknowledged as being one of them. This may be a foreign topic to some but chances are not a foreign experience. If you’ve engaged in pre-marital sex chances are you have experienced an ungodly soul tie.
Have you been involved with someone, who wasn’t good for you, and then had a difficult time breaking it off with them? In the natural sense of things, you may have looked at the experience as just a “bad break-up” but what you didn’t realize was that in the spiritual realm your soul was connected to that individual. When we are sexually involved with another individual we are giving a piece of ourselves that person. We come to them filled with voids of our past, issues, problems and we lay with their issues, problems, and trauma and these things connect in the spirit. We create a tie with that individual that is not often easy to break.
God gave me an illustration of what an ungodly soul tie looks like to give you a better understand of what is happening in the spirit.
Soul ties make it possible for you to lust after (crave after) an individual that is wrong for you in every sense of the way. Soul ties give the feeling of knowing that the individual is wrong for you but “something” makes you desire them. That “something” is a soul tie. So maybe your soul is connected to someone right now. Maybe you’ve had difficulty shaking off that ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. If we live long enough we will make choices for our lives that aren’t the best. This post isn’t to condemn you for your choices but to encourage you to start truly living for God and being wiser about your life and your body.
I want to pray with you that God will remove and cut off any ungodly soul tie in your life. I pray that every void in your life will be filled with the love of God. May God’s love supersede any desire you have of being disobedient to His will. May God give you the wisdom to make better choices in regards to your life and relationships.

Breaking Soul Ties:

There is one thing you can do right now to break a soul tie: RESIST the DEVIL. RESIST the TEMPTATION. God’s word says: for every temptation He gives us a route of escape; this means God always gives us a way out of sin. Did you know that you sin in your mind first! I didn’t realize this until a recent experience I had.
I went on a date with a guy and after the date; we shared a kiss. It’s been years since I’ve even been touched by a man so that initial touch raised up some emotions in me; we’re human. At that moment, I told God I was going to give in to the temptation; I sinned in my heart first. This gave me a flashback to the first and last time I broke my vow of celibacy. I already “knew” what I was going to do and I allowed myself to slip. I knew I didn’t want a replay of the last time so I prayed : “God, please help me from falling into this trap again”; I allowed God into the situation! God helped me to resist the temptation because I didn’t have the strength to do it on my own.
If you want to break the soul ties in your life because you are tired of going in circles, it’s up to you to acknowledge you have a soul tie and ask God for the power to take the escape route. There are many other ways/steps to breaking soul ties but I feel this is the first one you should master.

The Single Woman

Wait on God.
The best thing you can do for yourself is wait for God’s best for you. There will be many imitators that will come into your life whose mission is to derail you and detour you from the promises of God. Trust me, I know waiting is not the easiest thing but it’s the best thing. Who God has for you is better than any mate you handpicked yourself, wait on God’s best. God created you, so He knows what is best for you more than you know what’s best for you so wait on God. In the wait, work on you.
How can we be ready for a relationship/marriage, if we haven’t figured our self first? Who are you? What is your purpose? God wants to bring two whole individuals together not two people in pieces. Spend your “singledom” seeking purpose and praying that God will mold you into a wife.
Pray and ask God to give you the characteristics of a Godly woman so that when marriage comes knocking at your door you can be fully equipped. Why are so may people getting divorced in this day and age? They skipped past the wait and they have rushed into a relationship out of fear of being alone. They have let the “world’s standards” of marriage overtake them. Anything other than God’s best for you is an imitation, wait for the real thing. The difference between a God-sent spouse and a “you picked spouse” is longevity. If you want a lasting marriage, wait and build your marriage on God’s foundation. The perfect place to be is in the will of God; wait on God.
Share your thoughts!

Sade Solomon is a woman who decided to drop everything she knew and was comfortable with to chase after her dreams. Since having the faith to change careers from social work to fashion, she’s been on this relentless and complex journey to discovering her life’s true purpose. She is the Founder of Conversations Beyond which is a platform that provides inspiration to the everyday woman’s style and soul through a faith & lifestyle blog, web-series, and women’s empowerment meetups/events.



  1. November 7, 2018 / 8:44 pm

    This really touched me in so many ways. I never realized soul ties can truly affect and hinder you from your purpose. I’m so glad to see you sharing what you have learned and what God continues to show you.

    • Sade
      November 17, 2018 / 3:08 am

      Hey Love ! It was soo good seeing you! I’m glad you took some nuggets from my message! Soul ties are truly hindering and we have too much work to do to be stuck, delayed, or hindered girl!

  2. November 8, 2018 / 7:40 am

    This post means so much to me because this is the season I’m currently in. I just shared how I’m leveling up in my faith, turning to and trusting God when I get discouraged about being single. It makes all the difference to know He’s got it all under control.

    • Sade
      November 17, 2018 / 3:04 am

      Wow! Look at God. He’s certainly trying to get your attention. It’s not easy waiting, I’ve wanted to give in many times but I refuse to give up on the hope that God has someone for me; I refuse! He does have it under control and He knows what’s best for you sis! Continue to trust Him !!!

    • Tennessee
      May 17, 2019 / 1:52 pm

      Appreciate your honesty! Love how you openly share your jouney with God. And love how you point out that single women should pray that God molds us to into ‘whole’ & prepared wives, instead of praying that God just brings us Prince Charming. ♡

      • Sade
        June 7, 2019 / 9:55 am

        So, so , so well said!!!!!! Amen and praise God. It’s a journey but I thank God for never leaving us to walk it alone!

      • Sade
        July 1, 2019 / 1:48 am

        That is so well said sis!!!!! Amen and praise God!!!!

  3. Gods Gem
    February 7, 2019 / 3:14 pm

    I’ve had and still have my struggles with depression. I’m thankful how God order our steps daily when we seek Him early. I found you on Instagram while reading one of Jasmine Rose post and read your reply. Young lady you are wise. I know that this is definitely a Divine connection. God is Awesome! There is no me without Him. I celebrate your willingness to share your life and your love for YAHWEH. Thank you! I needed this.

    • Sade
      February 14, 2019 / 12:13 pm

      Praise God! This truly means a lot! I pray that God will lift the weight of depression off of you so that you can truly be free in Him like his word says!!!

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