How Collaborations Are Helping Me Learn to Trust Again

This is probably the 5,974,049,978,934th time you’ve heard me mention collaboration on my blog in the past few weeks! If you are getting tired of hearing it, sorry not sorry! It is so refreshing, to me, to finally be in a space where I am making genuine and powerful connections with other women. For so long, due to horrible blow-ups and being burned by past female friends/connections, I lost hope in working with other women. I never wanted to be the woman who said ” I don’t have female friends”; I found this quite pitiful and depressing.

I can finally say: there has been a total revival in the connections I’ve built and established with female creatives recently. I don’t put the complete blame on the past females I’ve encountered; I too had a huge part to play in the “blow-ups”. There were things I needed to learn about myself in the process.

I’ve recognized that NOT addressing things that bother me comes easy to me. Since being saved, I have found myself being really PASSIVE in relationships/friendships. I never wanted to be viewed as less than a true representative of Jesus Christ! But Jesus wasn’t PASSIVE; He flipped tables and addressed people’s mess! I also believe this passivity came from being in an emotionally abusive relationship. You get tired of arguing and tired of always being “wrong”, you lose your will to fight; this is what happened to me.

I’ve learned the hard way that avoiding issues does not make them go away! You may forfeit having to address them presently but they will manifest again; trust me. But, I’m leaving the past in the past and embracing the future of creative female collaborations. I’m learning to trust again! I have the character to sustain these new connections!

We never have to be prisoners of past! Don’t let one bad break-up tarnish your view on people as a whole! Don’t let your future pay for what your past has done to you! It’s okay to trust again; I’m a living witness.


Sade Solomon is a woman who decided to drop everything she knew and was comfortable with to chase after her dreams. Since having the faith to change careers from social work to fashion, she’s been on this relentless and complex journey to discovering her life’s true purpose. She is the Founder of Conversations Beyond which is a platform that provides inspiration to the everyday woman’s style and soul through a faith & lifestyle blog, web-series, and women’s empowerment meetups/events.


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