There’s a thinnnnnn line between being single and being desperate! There was a point in my life where I was so single and so desperate that I attracted anything (A·NY·THING).
Desperation gave off a scent that I was willing to waste my time and I did! I remember having these long conversations with dudes I truly knew I couldn’t do life with and one day God said: STOP.
I was so discontent with being single that I was willing to engage with anyone who would take interest in me; can I keep it real!? I didn’t value my singleness or my time!
Although being alone isn’t always easy, I’m at a point where I refuse to be desperate and you should to. Don’t allow your impatience and the enemy’s lies about your future to force you into a relationship or MARRIAGE out of pure desperation.Don't allow your impatience and the enemy's lies about your future force you into a relationship or MARRIAGE out of pure desperation. Click To Tweet
Don’t take the scraps that are offered to you! Know what you’re worth and what you deserve. God doesn’t want to give you secondhand blessings. Don’t just take anything that’s offered to you; wait on God’s best!
Set the standards for yourself and your future relationship and don’t let time discourage you (I’m preaching to myself too). Sometimes you have to remind yourself of who you are! On second thought, always remind yourself about who you are!
I rather be single than be with the wrong person. The enemy knows your taste and he also sees your desperation; so he will send you that “one” who will derail you from your dreams and your purpose. Who has time for that ? 🙋🏾♀️This girl doesn’t.
Paul’s saying concerning singleness is:
“Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them…
1 Corinthians 7:17a NIV
This means we need to be cool with where God has us! He knows our heart and our desires for marriage so when the time is right, He’ll come through.
Your singleness is a time of reflection, healing, and service. Get to know yourself and get to know God. Allow God to show you what true love and marriage mean to Him. Get out of that place of self-pity and desperation; it’s okay to work on you and it’s okay to be single!