Doing It: Why I Remain Celibate Until Marriage

I’ve been in my apartment for about two weeks now and I’m still amazed at God’s faithfulness. I get reluctant to share, sometimes, only because I want y’all to get the fullness of the testimony; not pieces. I don’t want to boast about myself but rather show you what God can do.

I’m eventually going to do an IGTV video because I want to encourage you to wait on God. I’m realizing that my discipline in waiting for sex until marriage has helped me to be disciplined in other areas as well. It’s helped me to be clear about what I desire in life. It helped me get this 2-bedroom apartment.

It’s challenged me not to settle for good or second best. It’s trained me how to have self control. What y’all don’t understand is, I like and enjoy sex just like the next person; let’s just get that clear. However, God knew that I needed to learn how to get a grasp of self-control. Do y’all understand how much power there is in having the ability to turn down something you enjoy? You desire? Deny yourself !

Practicing celibacy until marriage is more than just biblical sexual morality; it’s learning how to let go and truly trust God. It’s like saying: “God, I really enjoy this thing but I’m willing to place my flesh under subjection if that means serving you with integrity” or “God, I really enjoy this thing but I’m willing to give it up for awhile; while you refine my character.” Don’t get in the way of what God is doing.

It’s not easy being celibate but the woman I am today doesn’t compare to who I was.  Who I am today is definitely in part to practicing celibacy. I said “No to Sex and Yes, to God.” My “yes” to God transcends just my celibacy; I’ve said yes to everything.

Yes to better.

Yes to His blessings.

Yes to more. 

Jesus sacrificed His life for me, the least I can do is give up sex until marriage.

To those of you who are reading this saying : “Nah, I can’t do that”, the truth is : it isn’t that you can’t; it’s you don’t want to”.


Sade Solomon is a woman who decided to drop everything she knew and was comfortable with to chase after her dreams. Since having the faith to change careers from social work to fashion, she’s been on this relentless and complex journey to discovering her life’s true purpose. She is the Founder of Conversations Beyond which is a platform that provides inspiration to the everyday woman’s style and soul through a faith & lifestyle blog, web-series, and women’s empowerment meetups/events.


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